tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post6676561480327939020..comments2019-10-17T19:59:41.146-07:00Comments on Infertility UGH: Coming OutNixyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14635739872891276254noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post-77269428376020282722010-01-05T05:47:53.978-08:002010-01-05T05:47:53.978-08:00I've told everything. Anyone who asks, I tell ...I've told everything. Anyone who asks, I tell and I've even told people who don't ask. For me, it was less of a burden to have it out in the open than to continue to keep secrets about it. I don't regret that decision at all. Of course, it doesn't mean that everyone was as supportive as I thought they would be or that they had the reaction I wanted, but it was a load off of my chest. Plus, when you think about it, the more people you tell, the more people you have praying for you.<br /><br />Good luck with your decision.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post-45593035411281833112010-01-04T19:12:14.177-08:002010-01-04T19:12:14.177-08:00DH and I had the same dilemma. I told a few of ou...DH and I had the same dilemma. I told a few of our close friends because I needed an outlet and a few people I could be totally honest with. We thought we needed to tell everyone else including our family because it felt like we were keeping something from them. I quickly changed my mind after one of my friends started giving me unwanted advice and telling me to that they know "for a fact" that if we quit TTC we will get pregnant. Those kinds of statements made me realize that I don't deal well with stupid "advice".<br /><br />I think you should tell a few people you can trust and if that goes well then you can open up to more. Just be prepared for people treating you different.<br /><br />Good luck, I know this is a hard decision.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06304604705109409567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post-4589158700162627062010-01-04T17:58:27.858-08:002010-01-04T17:58:27.858-08:00I haven't told anyone yet, either. Just DH and...I haven't told anyone yet, either. Just DH and our RE know. I think about telling my parents sometimes. But I'm afraid, because it's one of those things that once it's done it can't be "undone." But I know my parents can keep a secret, so if I do tell them I won't have to worry that the whole family will find out. <br /><br />I was actually just thinking that I wish one of my friends would "come out" to me, because then I wouldn't feel afraid to come out to her.<br /><br />Well, it's a tough decision, because it seems like people <i>will</i> treat you differently. But will it be good differently, or bad differently?Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08482387222906180900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post-24196801365626663792010-01-04T17:49:53.964-08:002010-01-04T17:49:53.964-08:00I'm happy my family and DH's family knows....I'm happy my family and DH's family knows. They have mostly left us alone, leaving messages on our machine like, Hello.. just thinking about you guys. But they know why Aunt Michelle isn't at the chorus concert this year. That seems to make it easier on me, I'm not obligated to these events right now, and no one is judging me for not going.<br />**<br />My Office Manager knows, only because she had to for the Dr. appointments and then the day I found out my husband had no sperm, I was hysterically crying outside and she followed me. In my hysteria, I told her.. and now I wish I hadn't.<br />**<br />All in all, I'm happy with who knows. Some know all the details, some know just that we "are having problems conceiving naturally".Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14827590692827778824noreply@blogger.com