tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post7950385974999651756..comments2019-10-17T19:59:41.146-07:00Comments on Infertility UGH: Dodging a BulletNixyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14635739872891276254noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post-10957183951109621862010-02-14T10:43:10.138-08:002010-02-14T10:43:10.138-08:00Ugh that is really awful about your mom. My mom i...Ugh that is really awful about your mom. My mom is a super open person and through all my IF treatments all her co-workers knew everything about it. I would find out because she'd offer advice from one of them, and I'd be like, how do they even KNOW about this?! Luckily, I live in another state so I never see these people or it would really be annoying.<br /><br />Even though your SIL said she was going to start trying, maybe they have only been kind of trying? Like if they haven't watched every single sign while TTC she might not be as upset about it as someone who has been diagnosed with IF (they've only been married about 5 mths right?). I don't know, of course, so definitely tell her as gently as you can and without a lot of other people around so she doesn't have to put a fake smile on in front of tons of family.<br /><br />It's a hard place to be in, for sure.quadmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17254199098599230245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post-72880125517587310552010-02-12T11:03:37.410-08:002010-02-12T11:03:37.410-08:00We haven't picked a name for the little dude y...We haven't picked a name for the little dude yet :)Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11122362716599059627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post-68630166092307305362010-02-12T06:36:11.478-08:002010-02-12T06:36:11.478-08:00I would let them know beforehand. I always appreci...I would let them know beforehand. I always appreciated that from people, because it gives me a chance to cope in private before having to handle myself in public in front of other people. <br /><br />Good luck with sharing the news! I'm sure everyone will be thrilled.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post-25105703637717929522010-02-12T05:34:44.532-08:002010-02-12T05:34:44.532-08:00Definitely let them know before hand.
I much pr...Definitely let them know before hand. <br /><br />I much prefer email because it gives me time to compose myself and summon up the correct response. But explain why you are emailing, nit because you want to be impersonal but because you too have had to cope with infertility and know how difficult it can be to deal with announcements. Also give her a get about clause, tell her you won't be offended if she doesn't feel up to attending your baby shower or whatever, (and mean it!).<br /><br />And when you do tell your extended family, if they are banging on about your pregnancy too much, and nudging your sister in law telling her to get a move on, have plenty of different conversations up your sleeve so that you can change topic.<br /><br />I wrote a post about this: http://is.gd/8ehT4Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07336643483655255680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7051236463724548124.post-50999659593383961032010-02-11T22:14:11.844-08:002010-02-11T22:14:11.844-08:00Ugh sounds like a dilemma. I know all IFers respo...Ugh sounds like a dilemma. I know all IFers respond to announcements differently, but when we made ours to our one IF family member we took the approach we would have preferred (since we didn't know what they would prefer and how do you ask that?). I'd personally call so they can grieve and adjust before they have to see you and spend time with you. But you decide what you think is best :) Good luck with you mom, yikes!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11122362716599059627noreply@blogger.com