Thursday, December 17, 2009

To and Fro

Sweets and I have been on a bit of a truce for the past week or so. I think that both of us are pretty sick of everything and so we are just existing for the moment.

When we met with the RE several weeks ago, she suggested that Sweets start taking some Zinc and Selenium (or multi vitamin) for general sperm quality purposes. I figured that this was his deal, and he should be able to make it to the drug store to pick some up. Which, of course, he did not.

So last night, I swung by the drug store and pick up a bottle of zinc, and one of selenium for him. I consider getting him a multi-vitamin, but I know that he does not really like taking vitamins because he took a class in college on them and the professor harped a lot about how they are unnecessary. He has, for the past 10 years, refused to take vitamins for this reason.

When I give him the bottles, he says "but the RE said I could just take a multi-vitamin" to which I explain why I bought the separate bottles. He just repeats himself, and I just screamed "DONT F#@KING ARGUE WITH ME ABOUT THIS!" and he just repeats himself again. Because he has to have the last word.

I mean seriously, what the hell is his problem?!? If he wanted a damn multivitamin, he could have bought them HIMSELF. Why DIDN'T he buy them himself? Is he incapable? Does he not care? Did he just forget? Is he arguing with me because he's mad at himself for not remembering?

What scares me a little bit is that instead of forcing him to see what he was doing (which is what I normally do with his crazy), I just let it go. I withdrew into myself like I was doing 6 months ago. 6 months ago was a really bad time for me. I don't think I can take more of his crap until the holidays are over.

Just 12 more days, and we'll be back from crazy land. Maybe I should start an advent calendar or a paper chain for that. :)


  1. Oh, babe. Been there! What is it with men who play incompetent (or just DON'T do what they're supposed to), and then have the gall to criticize when we do it for them?

    Sometimes pulling back isn't bad. You CAN call them on their crazy too often, if you know what I mean. Sometimes, letting go is best.

    Take care of YOU. That's what matters.


  2. (By best, I mean best for YOU. Not for crazy man. But you knew that, right?)



  3. I'm so sorry that IF is being compounded by an uncooperative DH and by the just plain relationship toll that is taking place. :( I wish I had the answer or at least some advice but I am fresh out. Maybe it can be a small comfort that this time you can withdraw to us bloggie buddies a little and not so totally to yourself all alone. ((hugs))

  4. Men! I'm sorry he's being so frustrating. It's times like these we have to remind ourselves of all the reasons why we married these uncooperative uncommunicative cavemen. Hang in there!

  5. Hi! Thanks for stopping by my blog. I'm glad you did, because it led me to yours! I have reading through some of your past blog entries, and have been surprised how many things we have in common. My DH and I have also struggled in our marriage. It is refreshing to hear someone being honest about it. Even thoguh my blog is anonymous, I sometimes find it difficult to admit I don't have a perfect marriage. I also have a lot of similar issues with his family. Anyways, it is nice to "meet" you, and I hope we both get our BFP's in 2010! ~L.